The answer, of course, is that nothing has changed. Read this article. Read how horrible it makes Mariette’s adoptive mom look.
Mariette was adopted in October 1986, at a time when adoption in Haiti was barely regulated. Most of the children in Haitian orphanages had at least one living parent, and the concept of signing away rights to see children was foreign, and still is.
Mariette’s adoptive parents were Sandra and Albert Knopf, at the time empty-nesters in their 40s with three grown sons. Sandra said she felt God’s call to adopt.
“I believed that I was doing it for the Lord,” she said. “I was not doing it for the children and I was not doing it for me.
Really, Sandra? I mean… you know you’re supposed to pretend you’re doing it for the children, right?
So they found a man named Henry Wiebe who could arrange an adoption from Haiti for $3,500 per child, or $6,000 for two.
He came by with photos of older children, but Sandra only wanted girls under 2.
Because fuck the Lord’s opinion, right? Sandra wanted what Sandra wanted.
He called the next day. He had found them. She was going to call them Christa Gail and Jennifer Lynne, but they already had names: Mariette and Patricia.
This is the worst kind of pile-all-over-the-shitty-a’mom clickbait, isn’t it?
Sandra never met the Haitian lawyer who processed the papers, or went to the hearing where the judge approved the adoption. Platel handled all that while Sandra got visas. It took a month.
As the plane took off from Port-au-Prince, she felt overwhelming relief.
“Circling the airport, I just looked down and thought, ‘God, I never want to see this place again.'”
Sandra’s awfulness is the point, surely? Because when Mariette discovered she had never been relinquished for adoption,
her adoptive mother didn’t seem surprised. Yes, she conceded, there had been red flags about the adoption. The fact that Mariette’s age was off, the way the birth and other documents weren’t available at first and then suddenly appeared, at night, some filled out by hand.
We’re supposed to hate Sandra and her pious hypocrisy, aren’t we? The article could not have been written to make her look any worse, could it?
Now read the comments. Read the comments and tell me how much our attitudes about adoption have changed.