Is anguish felt by relinquishing mothers? Apparently not. Is it felt by APs who discover their beloved children were actually stolen? By late discovery adoptees? By twins separated by adoption? Not judging by the article we’ll be reading today. Adoption anguish is for rich foreigners who want to take advantage of impoverished Indian women by buying their reproductive abilities.
Anguish is for people who have no babies…and no hearts. Anguish is for those who have the luxury of turning down less than perfect babies. Anguish is for *pederasts. Anguish is for “fertility specialists” who find the exploitation of poor women “beautiful” as well as profitable. It’s for the woman whose “only option” is to rent a womb because the world owes her a baby of her own. It’s for her husband, who spouts the old tired bullshit about how purchased children “will have a more loved life because their parents have made so much of an effort to
obtain have them.” He adds “It would be madness to ban it.”
Madness to consider the exploitation of human incubators. Madness to consider changing a society that doesn’t value poor women. Madness for him and his wife not to get what they want at a cut-rate price (even thought their willingness to pay is what suposedly makes them such superior parents). Surrogates, the article points out, exist in other, richer countries. They simply expect to be paid a much larger fraction of what their time, trouble and suffering are worth.
Who cares if the human incubator signed a contract she never got a copy of? Who cares if she didn’t realize until the time came to give birth that she is going to undergo a C-section instead (like it or not)? Who cares if she is “not paid the promised amount and lack[s] health insurance if things go wrong”?
It’s fine to exploit women and reduce them to objects if they are poor and couldn’t get the money any other way. Most enlightened liberals I know say similar things about prostitutes and porn actresses–but, oddly enough, never about minimum wage workers, sweatshop workers, or migrant workers who keep fruit prices low by working for less than minimum wage. Those people, they all agree, are being exploited, and something should be done about it. Somehow it’s only the women whose reproductive organs are for sale who cannot feel anguish. They are simply exercising their rights and making their choices.
*An old-fashioned term to be sure, but one I must prefer to “pedophile,” which implies that baby-rapers love their victims.