Do I even have to say I think it would be a better use of money to “crowdfund” a woman’s keeping her baby? I hope I don’t.
Here’s yet another article that might as well have been written with the sole purpose of showing how little adoption is about the best interests of the child and how much it is about the desires of adults.
Unexpected events […] led Leah and Kevin Masseth […] to create a GoFundMe page to help with the costs of adopting a boy from South Korea. They thought they would have to fly to Korea only once, and that the entire process would take about 18 months.
But it has now been three years, and the Masseths recently learned they will have to fly to Korea twice, once to get court approval and the second time to bring home their son, whom they have named Noah.
OK, look…they didn’t know? Wasn’t it their business to know? If the rules were changed without any notice, then that sucks, but if that were the case, wouldn’t the article say so? Of course it would. We’d all be much more likely to contribute if the couple had been tricked. Everyone knows it’s very, very wrong to “swindle” (but people are not products!) or “bait and switch” (no, people are definitely not products!) PAPs and APs out of the perfect product they paid for. I can only conclude that they, like so many PAPs, found adoption so cripplingly expensive that they rushed in willy-nilly, shelling out wad after wad of cash for “fees” and “gifts” and other bribes whenever they were asked to do so while asking as few questions as possible.
Adoption is a little bit like prostitution in this respect: Everyone wants babies, but it’s wrong to buy them, because babies are people. It is, happily, much wronger to sell babies then it is to buy them, which makes people who sell them less than human, which is what makes it acceptable to buy their babies.
The Masseths have a 7-year-old biological daughter. After she was born they tried to have another child. Leah had six miscarriages and two ectopic pregnancies before they decided to adopt.
If you suffer a lot in trying to get something but don’t get it, strangers owe it to you to buy you a consolation-prize version of that thing, even if you already have one. I would like to invoke this principle yesterday so I could be disappointed about not having tenure but settling for the full-time job my degrees were supposed to earn me at the very least.
They wanted a child from Korea because Kevin had visited the country, and they have friends who were adopted from there as children.
Do they have a nursery already decorated? You bet your ass they do. Seriously, I wish I knew how people make this kind of sympathetic magic work. I could probably afford to rent an office somewhere and claim (while living in it) that it was my tenured professor’s office and alll I need is the job with tenure to fill it, because that would make me so very happy and help so many students who are in need of classes taught by tenured professors (which is true). I am very, very far along the tenure-track job process. My job is in the pipeline! I spent a lot of money on these degrees. I did everything right! It’s not fair!
“So many babies and children are in need of adoption,” Leah Masseth said. “At first we wanted to adopt, and the costs scared us. But we found there are so many opportunities for us to raise money.”
“So many babies…are in need of adoption.” It’s only the third. I don’t know how I’m gonna blog my way through this November at all, at all.