There isn’t one. (Hadja going for a second there, didn’t I?)
Someone recently brought the existence of Dr. Rita Simon and her book (title above) to my attention. Dr. Simon claims to be an expert on the history of women’s rights. How on earth can one study the history of women’s rights and think adoption is OK? Women’s rights to raise their children were (and are being) taken away from them. At least half of all adopted people are women, and many of us have no legal right to our own identities. How can you know this and be a supporter of adoption? At least I don’t see her calling herself a feminist.
Needless to say, I won’t be reading Dr. Simon’s (“and her collaborators'”) book. I don’t have to! My spike-ic powers allow me to sum up the entire 150 pages in four (*five?) sentences:
1) I want a kid and I don’t care what color it is.
2) Children will die if I or someone like me doesn’t get them.
3) Race is not a problem for white people, so it won’t be a problem for my child.
4) Those People don’t adopt their own kind anyway.
Scott Simon was sure, until corrected, that Chinese people are not allowed to adopt other Chinese people. People who want to adopt African American children are forever pointing out that African Americans don’t adopt. They do adopt, and they adopt the children of people outside their families, just not in the numbers white people do. In the first place, they’re a minority. In the second pace, they live in a white world. Perhaps they don’t feel as entitled to the kids. Perhaps it’s tougher for them to pass home studies. Imagine the average person’s reaction to a white single mother versus a black one, for example.
I read an article awhile back (can’t find it) about what happens when African Americans adopt white children. It said what happens is that white adults are constantly sidling up to these kids in public and quietly asking “Are you OK?” or “Can I help you?”–fearing the kids have been abducted. (…They’re your what?)
I mean, I know the white parents of kids of other races get a lot of stupid questions, but how often are they suspected of kidnapping?
Until we really do treat everyone equally, less-privileged races will adopt in smaller numbers simply because adoption is for the privileged. Glomming up all those rainbow kids for yourself is not enlightened and it’s not the answer; it’s a Band-Aid, and oh look! you get to benefit from it! Ergo, it is Good…not.
*The author (“and collaborators”) may also pause to point out that any child of any other race would benefit from growing up in a white USAian household, but most people seem to think that part goes without saying.