Adoptees who say they’re glad they were born before Roe v Wade. In response to an FB comment of mine, someone wrote:
“I dont hate adoption…im thankful abortion wasnt an option in 1970…Had a good life with adoptive family.. i now have my own family and as of last year i now have my bio family in my life…doent sound bad to me…..i understand not everyones experience is positive but i do think for some of us it was.”
(Note that even a fellow adoptee who reads my beef about adoption assumes it was because I had terrible parents. How is it, anyway, that such a Wonderful Institution manages to place so many children with terrible parents that they’re assumed to be the default if one says adoption is only 99% wonderful?)
At any rate, I’m not glad that my mother or any woman was made a slave to her reproductive system, but she was. The morals of those around her and her inability to get birth control, let alone an abortion, in 1964 made her a slave, and that’s nothing to be glad about. Not at all. Her story is not mine to tell, but it involved doing time in a “home for unwed mothers” in another state. How horrible it must have been to be pregnant and alone and ashamed and frightened.
There are better ways of getting into this world. I’m glad to be here, but I refuse to celebrate how it happened. It should be every woman’s right to decide whether or not she wants to be pregnant, or wants to raise a child.
The person quoted above is male. I can understand his point of view; it’s probably influenced by the fact that he’s never lived in terror of being pregnant, and he lives in a society that encourages him to think of a woman’s body as public property.
Naw, fuck that, he was obviously adopted by terrible parents who failed to teach him empathy.